Most people can do extraordinary things if they have the confidence or take the risks. Yet most people don't. They sit in front of the telly and treat life as if it goes on forever.
All endings are also beginnings. We just don't know it at the time.
If you dont listen deeply, the connection wont take place
. [You have to be] willing to be changed by the person youre listening to, where youre not just waiting for a pause so you can say your thing, but youre actually letting them have an effect on you if they can.
Real listening is a willingness to let the other person change you. When I'm willing to let them change me, something happens between us that's more interesting than a pair of dueling monologues. Like so much of what I learned in the theater, this turned out to be how life works, too.
When I started out as an actor, I thought, Here's what I have to say; how shall I say it? I began to understand that what I do in the scene is not as important as what happens between me and the other person. And listening is what lets it happen. It's almost always the other person who causes you to say what you say next. You don't have to figure out how you'll say it. You have to listen so simply, so innocently, that the other person brings about a change in you that makes you say it and informs the way you say it.
You have to leave the city of your comfort and go into the wilderness of your intuition. You can only get there by hard work, by risking and by not quite knowing what you are doing. What you will discover will be wonderful: Yourself.
Laugh at yourself, but don't ever aim your doubt at yourself. Be bold. When you embark for strange places, don't leave any of yourself safely on shore. Have the nerve to go into unexplored territory.
Be brave enough to live creatively. The creative place where no one else has ever been.
Begin challenging your own assumptions. Your assumptions are your windows on the world. Scrub them off every once in a while, or the light won't come in.
I'm an angry person, angrier than most people would imagine, I get flashes of anger. What works for me is working out when it's useful to use that anger.
I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.
What I try to do is write. I may write for two weeks 'the cat sat on the mat, that is that, not a rat.' And it might be just the most boring and awful stuff. But I try. When I'm writing, I write. And then it's as if the muse is convinced that I'm serious and says, 'Okay. Okay. I'll come.'"
Of all the people you will ever know in a lifetime, you are the only person you will never leave or lose. To the questions of life, you are the only answer. To the problems in your life, you are the only solution.
We are continually faced by great opportunities brilliantly disguised as unsolvable problems.
Be where your feet are.
Any fool can give away product, but it takes brains to sell it.
Your current safe boundaries were once unknown frontiers.
Insanity: doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
We don't stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing.
If you stumble, make it part of the dance.
Be weird. Be random. Be who you are. Because you never know who would love the person you hide.
Giving up on your goal because of one setback is like slashing your other three tires because you got one flat.
Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it.
One must learn by doing the thing, for though you think you know it, you have no certainty until you try.
What lies in our power to do lies in our power not to do.
The things we have to learn before we can do, we learn by doing.
We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.
Educating the mind without educating the heart is no education at all.
We become just by performing just actions, temperate by performing temperate actions, brave by performing brave actions.
Style is a reflection of your attitude and personality.
In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate.
Focus is so critically important. Saying "no" to great ideas is necessary to get to the brilliant ones. At every step of the way you have to cut towards one path. It's such a hard thing to do as an entrepreneur because you don't really have the confidence in where you're going yourself. You see these little companies building out service brands because they want to have account executives who work with customers, so they try to spin their products into serving three different groups in the first couple of years, and that's a very adverse situation to get into. We all expect services to do one thing right, allow you to search the world or enter 140 characters or post pictures of your friends. It's a very simple formula that you just repeat and rinse all the way to success.
Gary Austin (founder of The Groundlings improv theater co.)
You're creating nonsense in order to create NEW sense!
Great writing is all about the power of the deleted word.
If we are to achieve results never before accomplished, we must expect to employ methods never before attempted.
When speaking aloud, you punctuate constantly with body language. Your listener hears commas, dashes, question marks, exclamation points as you shout, whisper, pause, wave your arms, roll your eyes, wrinkle your brow. In writing, punctuation plays the role of body language. It helps readers hear you the way you want to be heard.
You think your pain and your heartbreak are unprecedented in the history of the world, but then you read.
You grow up the day you have your first good laugh at yourself.
Play is training for the unexpected.
Alexander Graham Bell
Sometimes we stare so long at a door that is closing that we see too late the one that is open.
Leadership is the capacity to translate vision into reality.
Few of us get up in the morning and plan exactly what we will say and do throughout the day. Of course, there are times we might privately rehearse something important that wed like to say. But even in those situations, we must often adjust our speeches according to the verbal or nonverbal response of the person to whom we are speaking.
To achieve great things, two things are needed: a plan and not quite enough time.
It is better to know nothing than to know what ain't so.
Gary Ryan Blair
Creative risk taking is essential to success in any goal where the stakes are high. Thoughtless risks are destructive, of course, but perhaps even more wasteful is thoughtless caution which prompts inaction and promotes failure to seize opportunity.
We are not just our behavior; we are the person managing our behavior.
Stories turn anonymous strangers into people who matter.
We must all do theatre to find out who we are and to discover who we could become.
If you can laugh at it, you can live with it.
Sharon Anthony Bower
There is power in well-chosen words, and often there is equal power in silence. Learning when to talk and when to listen are among the most powerful skills you can develop.
The basic difference between being assertive and being aggressive is how our words and behavior affect the rights and well being of others.
Don't think. Thinking is the enemy of creativity. It's self-conscious, and anything self-conscious is lousy. You can't try to do things. You simply must do things.
Keep an open mind and be ready to change and adapt to the situation. Don't ask reality to conform to your blueprint, but transform your blueprint to adapt to reality.
Complexity is your enemy. Any fool can make something complicated. It is hard to make something simple.
One thing is certain in business: you will make mistakes. When you are pushing the boundaries, mistakes are inevitable--how you react is important.
A business has to be involving, it has to be fun, and it has to exercise your creative instincts.
To launch a business means successfully solving problems. Solving problems means listening.
An inventor creates something that works. An entrepreneur creates something that others will buy.
Peter Brook (author of The Empty Space: A Book about the Theatre)
A stage space has two rules: (1) Anything can happen and (2) Something must happen."
The secret of success: Find out what people want and help them get it.
[We want students to] experience success and failure not as reward and punishment but as information.
You have to be able to communicate in life and probably schools underemphasize that. If you can't talk to people or write, you're giving up your potential.
David D. Burns, MD
The best way to confront your fears is to stop avoiding the situation youre most afraid of.
Great acting is about listening to what they are saying ....not waiting to deliver your lines.
There is no point in competing with young talent...I just concentrate on getting better each day.
We must be willing to get rid of the life weve planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.
I say, follow your bliss and don't be afraid, and doors will open where you didn't know they were going to be.
If you are not moving closer to what you want in sales (or in life), you probably arent doing enough asking.
Everything you want is on the other side of fear.
While the law of competition may be sometimes hard for the individual, it is best for the race, because it ensures the survival of the fittest in every department.
The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but creatures of emotion.
The person who seeks all their applause from outside has their happiness in anothers keeping.
People rarely succeed unless they have fun in what they are doing.
Don't criticize, condemn or complain. Constantly criticizing, condemning and complaining is what breaks most relationships. Instead of criticizing and condemning, figure out how you can solve the problem together. Instead of focusing on blaming the other person for what they did wrong, focus on how you can avoid the problem next time.
There are always three speeches for every one you actually give. The one you practiced, the one you gave, and the one you wish you gave.
You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.
You can fail at what you don't want, so you might as well take a chance doing what you love.
The key to change...is to let go of fear.
It takes a great deal of experience to become natural.
To be irreplaceable, one must be different.
Knowledge is of no value unless you put it into practice.
Teachers open the door. You enter by yourself.
The reason so many people never get anywhere in life is because when opportunity knocks, they are out in the backyard looking for four-leaf clovers.
A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.
Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen.
Success is going from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm.
Arthur C. Clarke
The only way to discover the limits of the possible is to go beyond them into the impossible.
...when you collaborate with someone else on something creative, you get to places that you would never get to on your own. The way an idea builds as it careens back and forth between good writers is so unpredictable. Sometimes it depends on people misunderstanding each other, and that's why I don't think there's any such thing as a mistake in the creative process. You never know where it might lead.
Nothing will stop you from being creative so effectively as the fear of making a mistake.
We're all in a race to be relevant.
They laugh at me because I'm different; I laugh at them because they're all the same.
Networking is marketing. Marketing yourself, marketing your uniqueness, marketing what you stand for.
James Bryant Conant
Behold the turtle, which only makes progress when it sticks its neck out.
A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.
If you want someone to remember your brand, engage with you, buy from you, or just tune in -- be creative, be relevant, be smart and know that if you do all those things right, they may remember ONE thing (that's just the way humans work), so you better make sure you know what that one thing is and drive it home.
Take some time to sit down and figure out how your big rival is promoting their brand and plan something smarter and more creative for yours!
If you stand back and analyze the best way to do something, you'll be standing there forever. Follow your gut and jump right in!
The difference between successful people and others is how long they spend time feeling sorry for themselves.
Instead of assuming everything you're being told is the truth, ask plenty of questions.
I've never had a really creative idea sitting at my desk. All the big ideas that made a difference happened when I was playing outside.
Learn to fail well! All the best things that happened in my business happened on the heels of failure.
If people like you, they're going to want to do business with you. And if they don't you're going to have an almost insurmountable obstacle to overcome.
When you feel stuck and can't seem to move ahead, always remember that you don't have to get it right, you just have to get it going!
Confidence is overrated. It's when we're uncomfortable and looking for answers that we learn and grow the most.
When you're in business, if you have some sort of gimmick it's a huge advantage.
Stop putting it off! Procrastination breeds guilt, guilt breeds depression, and depression breeds failure.
Figure out what past efforts amounted to nothing and label them your "not to do" list. Post the list where you'll see it.
If you have an idea, immediately move on it. To start that fire and get it burning immediately...it's everything.
The most effective way to build a brand is not by spending millions in advertising, but by finding a clever way to keep your name in the press.
Good salesmanship is nothing more than maximizing the positive and minimizing the negative.
Harebrained schemes often lead to great discoveries.
I have found, whether you have a tiny business or a big business, if you don't jump on something right away, it's like a bird flying by--it flies off.
You can't always study to be an entrepreneur. Sometimes, you just have to jump.
The biggest challenge in business is not the competition. It's what goes on inside your own head.
Leaders come in two flavors, expanders and containers. The best leadership teams have a mix of both.
Empathy for the people you're working with and being aware of their needs...that's the "big kahuna" in managing people.
Kevin Costner (as Billy Chapel in the movie For Love of the Game)
Clear the mechanism.
Stephen R. Covey
Between stimulus and response is our greatest power--the freedom to choose.
Begin with the end in mind.
Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.
I am NOT a product of my circumstances. I AM a product of my decisions.
Repeatedly we question the necessity of our actions and evaluate critically the reasons for carrying them out. But in flow there is no need to reflect, because the action carries us forward as if by magic.
e. e. cummings
To be nobody-but-yourself--in a world which is doing its best night and day to make you everybody else--means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight, and never stop fighting... Does this sound dismal? It isn't. It's the most wonderful life on earth.
It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.
Leonardo da Vinci
Simplicity is the ultimate form of sophistication.
Nothing strengthens authority so much as silence.
Courage is like -- it's a habitus, a habit, a virtue: you get it by courageous acts. It's like you learn to swim by swimming. You learn courage by couraging.
It is not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.
Antoine de Saint-Exupery
If you want to build a ship, don't drum up people to collect wood and don't assign them tasks and work, but rather teach them to long for the endless immensity of the sea.
I can't tell you how many times I arrived prepared for a negotiation, only to have someone or something come up that upset or changed the deal I thought I was doing. The only way to protect yourself one hundred percent against this situation is to assume there is something you don't know. This advice will not only keep your mind up to speed with the deal and force you to consider other parties' motivations, but it will also keep your ego in check.
We cannot become what we need to be by remaining what we are.
When you're locked into the mindset that helped you succeed, then it's difficult even to think about the profound changes you'll have to respond to. But if you practice change, if you keep up your ability to change, if you use it rather than lose it, then you'll be ready to change whenever you have to.
Arriving at one point is the starting point to another.
To be a person is to have a story to tell.
The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing.
Stephen Dolley Jr.
A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse.
Quality in a product or service is not what you put into it. It is what the client or customer gets out of it.
The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn't said.
We first make our habits and then they make us.
Personal stories are the emotional glue that connects your audience to your message.
Professor Albus Dumbledore (character in Harry Potter and the Sorcerers Stone)
It does not do to dwell on dreams and forget to live.
...he not busy being born is busy dying.
The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity.
An awful lot of good movies have gone unrecognized, and an awful lot of bad movies have had tremendous recognition. As long as you keep that in mind, you are never really disappointed.
When theres no experimenting theres no progress. Stop experimenting and you go backward. If anything goes wrong, experiment until you get to the very bottom of the trouble.
Discontent is the first necessity of progress.
The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing.
In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.
Try not to become a man of success but rather to become a man of value.
Nothing happens until something moves.
When we all think alike, no one thinks very much.
Problems cannot be solved at the same level of awareness that created them.
Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving.
If you can't explain it simply, you don't understand it well enough.
Dwight D. Eisenhower
Motivation is the art of getting people to do what you want them to do because they want to do it.
The more comfort becomes a priority, the more contracted you become with fear.
T. S. Eliot
We shall not cease from exploration and the end of all our exploring will be to arrive where we started and know the place for the first time.
When forced to work within a strict framework the imagination is taxed to its utmost--and will produce its richest ideas. Given total freedom the work is likely to sprawl.
Perseverance is not a long race; it is many short races one after another.
Strong feelings are fine; its the overreactions that mess us up.
Whenever you avoid alarming situations, you almost always increase your anxiety about them.
is not to change your desires and wishes but to persuade you to stop demanding that you absolutely must have what you wishfrom yourself, from others, and from the world. You can by all means keep your wishes, preferences, and desires, but unless you prefer to remain needlessly anxious, not your grandiose demands.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
The ancestor of every action is a thought.
Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.
Don't be too timid and squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better.
You become what you think about all day long.
To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.
Whatever you choose, however many roads you travel, I hope that you choose not to be a lady. I hope you will find some way to beak the rules and make a little trouble out there. And I also hope that you will choose to make some of that trouble on behalf of women. (Wellesley's Class of 1996 commencement speech)
How could I ever say no to you...and yet I am.
Fortune favors the audacious.
...slow down and self-edit and ask yourself the three things you must always ask yourself before you say anything: "Does this need to be said?" "Does this need to be said by me?" "Does this need to be said by me now?"
You are who you associate with.
Information is useless if it is not applied to something important or if you will forget it before you have a chance to apply it.
Learn to be difficult when it counts. [H]aving a reputation for being assertive will help you receive preferential treatment without having to beg or fight for it every time.
Being able to quit things that don't work is integral to being a winner.
Most people are fast to stop you before you get started but hesitate to get in the way if you're moving.
To enjoy life, you don't need fancy nonsense, but you do need to control your time and realize that most things just aren't as serious as you make them out to be.
If you are insecure, guess what? The rest of the world is, too. Do not overestimate the competition and underestimate yourself. You are better than you think.
The question you should be asking isn't, "What do I want?" or "What are my goals?" but "What would excite me?"
A person's success in life can usually be measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations he or she is willing to have.
People will choose unhappiness over uncertainty.
What we fear doing most is usually what we most need to do.
For all of the most important things, the timing always sucks. Waiting for a good time to quit your job? The stars will never align and the traffic lights of life will never all be green at the same time. The universe doesn't conspire against you, but it doesn't go out of its way to line up the pins either. Conditions are never perfect. "Someday" is a disease that will take your dreams to the grave with you. Pro and con lists are just as bad. If it's important to you and you want to do it "eventually," just do it and correct course along the way.
It doesn't matter how beautiful the guess is, or how smart the guesser is, or how famous the guesser is; if the experiment disagrees with the guess, the guess is wrong. That's all there is to it.
James D. Finley
Nothing encourages creativity like the chance to fall flat on one's face.
F. Scott Fitzgerald
The test of a first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposed ideas in mind at the same time, and still retain the ability to function.
Edward L. Flom
One of the hardest asks of leadership is understanding that you are not what you are, but what you're perceived to be by others.
BJ Fogg (Persuasive Technology Lab, Stanford)
People are generally resistant to teaching and training because it requires effort. This clashes with the natural wiring of human adults: We are fundamentally lazy.
Most people spend more time and energy going around problems than in trying to solve them.
You can't build a reputation on what you're going to do.
Whether you think that you can, or that you can't, you are usually right.
The best way to learn is not to study and to read, but to do.
John Forsyth, PhD., and Georg Eifert, PhD.
Discomfort avoidance is the common thread that binds all anxiety problems together.
Our greatest freedom is the freedom to choose our attitude.
You may delay, but time will not.
An investment in knowledge pays the best interest.
By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail.
[W]hen you assemble a number of men to have the advantage of their joint wisdom, you inevitably assemble with those men all their prejudices, their passions, their errors of opinion, their local interests, and their selfish views.
No one can be authentically human while he prevents others from being so.
You cannot teach a person anything. You can only help them discover it in themselves.
All truths are easy to understand once they are discovered; the point is to discover them.
The future depends on what we do in the present.
You must be the change you wish to see in the world.
Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will.
To gain your own voice, you have to forget about having it heard.
We must learn by example and by direct experience because there are real limits to the adequacy of verbal instruction.
In a crowded marketplace, fitting in is failing. In a busy marketplace, not standing out is the same as being invisible.
Seek out habits that help you overcome fear or inertia. Destroy those that do the opposite.
If you don't get it built, the work doesn't matter.
Learning is not watching a video, learning is taking action and seeing what happens.
Just about anything worth doing is worth doing better.
Letting your customers set your standards is a dangerous game, because the race to the bottom is pretty easy to win. Setting your own standards--and living up to them--is a better way to profit. Not to mention a better way to make your day worth all the effort you put into it.
The sound of a small bell during a dark night is louder than the din of traffic outside your window during rush hour. Surprise and differentiation have far more impact than noise does.
You need to know the conventional wisdom inside and out. Not to obey the rules, but to break them.
A lifetime spent noticing begins to turn into the ability to see what others can't.
You don't make art after you become an artist. You become an artist by ceaselessly making art.
Remarkable comes from being able to risk an entirely new kind of failure, the failure that comes with a new risk. When you take the new risk, you open the door to an entirely new form of success.
If you have decided that you can't do art until you quiet the voice of the resistance, you will never do art. Art is the act of doing work that matters while dancing with the voice in your head that screams for you to stop. We can befriend the lizard, lull it into a stupor, or merely face it down, but it's there, always. As soon as you embrace the lizard (not merely tolerate it but engage it as a partner in your art), then you are free.
The resistance wants to be reassured. It wants a testable plan. It wants to know that before it endures the pain, it is guaranteed the prize at the end. Give me more case studies, more examples, more reassurance. Give me proof! The lizard brain has succeeded in making you stuck. The best art is made by artists who don't know how it's going to work out in the end.
Good teaching is one-fourth preparation and three-fourths pure theater.
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
Things which matter most must never be at the mercy of things which matter least.
Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do.
What is not started will never get finished.
Whoever strenuously endeavors, him we can rescue.
What we agree with leaves us inactive, but contradiction makes us productive.
Play around. Dive into absurdity and write. Take chances. You will succeed if you are fearless of failure.
Write what disturbs you, what you fear, what you have not been willing to speak about. Be willing to be split open.
Almost everyone I meet is successful because of doing a lot of things right, and almost everyone I meet is successful in spite of some behavior that defies common sense.
There is a vitality, a life force, an energy, a quickening, that is translated through you into action and because there is only one of you in all time, that expression is unique.
Richard R. Grant
The value of identity of course is that so often with it comes purpose.
Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass...it's about learning how to dance in the rain!
You miss 100% of the shots you don't take.
Kasper Gutman (character in The Maltese Falcon)
Talking's something you can't do judiciously unless you keep in practice.
Col. Chris Hadfield
The danger is different from the fear. ... [practice] what to do if things go wrong, as well as right.
Harriett Hall, MD
over and over in the ER: dont be too quick to panic, because things are usually not as bad as your imagination represents them. Or as someone once instructed interns, In case of cardiac arrest, stop and take your own pulse first.
Sidney J. Harris
The two words "information" and "communication" are often used interchangeably, but they signify quite different things. Information is giving out; communication is getting through.
Aim at the sun, and you may not reach it; but your arrow will fly far higher than if aimed at an object on a level with yourself.
S. I. Hayakawa
The meanings of words are not in the words, they are in us.
The first problem of communication is getting people's attention.
The most basic way to get someone's attention is this: Break a pattern.
A good teacher can inspire hope, ignite the imagination, and instill a love of learning.
The difference between a dream and a goal is a deadline.
Do not wait; the time will never be "just right." Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you may have at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along.
Remember, the thoughts that you think and the statements you make regarding yourself determine your mental attitude. If you have a worthwhile objective, find the one reason why you can achieve it rather than hundreds of reasons why you can't.
People buy personalities as much as merchandise, and it is a question if they are not influenced more by the personalities with which they come in contact than they are by the merchandise.
Wise men, when in doubt whether to speak or to keep quiet, give themselves the benefit of the doubt, and remain silent.
There can be no progress without head-on confrontation.
Parenting wisdom comes when you shut your mouth, open your ears, and observe with your eyes. Until then, it's all guessing games.
Who do you feel like cooperating with? Someone who bosses you around or someone who trusts and respects you?
(On negotiation) It's an improvisation on a theme. You know where you want to go, but you don't know how to get there. It's not linear.
Thomas L. Holdcroft
Life is a grindstone. Whether it grinds us down or polishes us up depends on us.
Oliver Wendell Holmes
Make it happen: Greatness is not where we stand, but in what direction we are moving. We must sail sometimes with the wind, and sometimes against it--but sail we must, and not drift, nor lie at anchor.
I have trained myself to notice what I see.
We learn to do something by doing it. There is no other way.
The answers that stick are in response to the questions we ask.
True learning -- learning that is permanent and useful, that leads to intelligent action and further learning -- can arise only out of the experience, interests, and concerns of the learner.
Ability is what you're capable of. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it.
90% of success is failure.
Simplicity is really important. It's got to be simple, and sometimes to make something simple you have to really, really study everything about it. It might turn out to be complex, but you have to present it simply, particularly when it comes to people: when people buy something, they don't want a lecture.
It's not the load that breaks you down; it's the way you carry it.
J. D. Houston
If you want something in your life you've never had, you'll have to do something you've never done.
The secret of genius is to carry the spirit of the child into old age, which means never losing your enthusiasm.
I only wish I could find an institute that teaches people how to listen. Business people need to listen at least as much as they need to talk. Too many people fail to realize that real communication goes in both directions.
You can have brilliant ideas, but if you can't get them across, your ideas won't get you anywhere.
Multiple people have told me this: if you're not getting told "no" enough times a day, you're probably not doing it right or you're probably not pushing yourself hard enough. I think that's a good piece of advice for anybody building a company because you hear "no" so many times. And I think that's normal, that's a good thing, that you're trying to do something that's disruptive, that's groundbreaking, that there's going to be naysayers.
Great ideas need landing gear as well as wings.
We cannot escape fear. We can only transform it into a companion that accompanies us on all our exciting adventures... Take a risk a day--one small or bold stroke that will make you feel great once you have done it.
What would you do if you weren't afraid?
...the biggest inhibitor to change lies within yourself, and ... nothing gets better until you change.
I have accepted fear as part of life - specifically the fear of change...I have gone ahead despite the pounding in the heart that says: turn back...."
And the trouble is if you don't risk anything you risk even more.
I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.
Mistakes are our portals of discovery.
The creation of something new is not accomplished by the intellect but by the play instinct acting from inner necessity. The creative mind plays with the objects it loves.
Thinking is difficult, that's why most people judge.
Daniel Kahneman (psychologist, author of Thinking, Fast and Slow)
The confidence people have in their beliefs is not a measure of quality of evidence but of the coherence of the story the mind has managed to construct.
Draper L. Kaufman, Jr.
Those who do not create the future they want must endure the future they get.
John Keating (character in the movie Dead Poets Society)
You must strive to find your own voice. Because the longer you wait to begin, the less likely you are to find it at all.
Why do I stand up here? Anybody? I stand upon my desk to remind myself that we must constantly look at things in a different way.
No matter what anybody tells you, words and ideas can change the world.
There's a time for daring and there's a time for caution, and a wise man understands which is called for.
Limits are possibilities. ... Formal restrictions, contrary to what you might think, free you up by allowing you to concentrate on purer ideas. ... You can be crippled by too many choices, especially if you don't know what your goals are. [The Cheese Monkeys]
I'm a graphic designer--I pretty much see the world as one great big problem to solve; one typeface, one drawing, one image at a time. Life is a lifelong assignment that must be constantly analyzed, clarified, figured out, and responded to appropriately. [The Learners]
What makes good design is good clients. ... If the sumvabitch paying the bills isn't on your bus, you ain't going anywhere. But if he really lets you drive, you can gun it to the moon. [The Learners]
What people really want, no matter who they are, is someone to listen to them. ... people have a lot on their minds, however trivial, and if you're simply willing to sit there like a sack of dirt and let them yammer, they will tell it to you. [The Learners]
Professor Kingsfield (in The Paper Chase)
To dare is to lose one's footing momentarily. To not dare is to lose oneself.
The road to hell is paved with adverbs.
Martin Luther King Jr.
If you can't fly then run, if you can't run then walk, if you can't walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward.
Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.
We are now faced with the fact, my friends, that tomorrow is today. We are confronted with the fierce urgency of now. In this unfolding conundrum of life and history, there is such a thing as being too late. Procrastination is still the thief of time. Life often leaves us standing bare, naked, and dejected with a lost opportunity. The tide in the affairs of men does not remain at flood--it ebbs. We may cry out desperately for time to pause in her passage, but time is adamant to every plea and rushes on. Over the bleached bones and jumbled residues of numerous civilizations are written the pathetic words, "too late."
Through my questions, you learn to teach yourself. ...you learn to analyze...train your mind.
Words are, of course, the most powerful drug used by mankind.
[H]uman beings...make a limit in their mind of what their potential is. They decide, "I've been told this," or "this is what society tells me," or they've been made to believe something. If every human being actually threw away those thoughts...the potential of human beings is great, it's huge, compared to what they actually think of themselves.
The biggest mistake made by emerging speakers is that they discount their own experience.
When I was growing up my father would always tell me, "We all only have 24 hours a day. It's what we choose to do with that time that defines us. It's the one thing you can never get back."
Concepts are not things that can be changed just by someone telling us a fact. We may be presented with facts, but for us to make sense of them, they have to fit what is already in the synapses of the brain. Otherwise, facts go in and then they go right back out. They are not heard, or they are not accepted as facts, or they mystify us: Why would anyone have said that? Then we label the fact as irrational, crazy, or stupid.
There will come a time when you believe everything is finished. That will be the beginning.
Experience is pure gold. Experience is what you get when you don't get what you wanted.
Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.
D. H. Lawrence
Be still when you have nothing to say; when genuine passion moves you, say what you've got to say, and say it hot.
To know oneself is to study oneself in action with another person.
Those who are unaware they are walking in darkness will never seek the light.
The best advice I ever got was from Lee Iacocca.... It was get into a business where you can be a big fish, not the little fish. Get into a business where you can be a change agent, where you can make a difference.
The scientific mind does not so much provide the right answers as ask the right questions.
Silence gets you out of the way and creates a space others will fill in with themselves.
Edmond Locard (Locard's Exchange Principle)
The theory holds that the perpetrator of a crime will both leave something at the scene and leave with something from it. Dr. Locard formulated the basic principle of forensic science as "Every contact leaves a trace."
All speaking is public speaking, whether it's to one person or a thousand.
What we see depends mainly on what we look for.
Traveler, there is no path. The path must be forged as you walk.
A mediocre person tells. A good person explains. A superior person demonstrates. A great person inspires others to see for themselves.
Action without vision is only passing time, vision without action is merely day dreaming, but vision with action can change the world.
Thinking is skilled work. It is not true that we are naturally endowed with the ability to think clearly and logically--without learning how, or without practicing.... People with untrained minds should no more expect to think clearly and logically than people who have never learned and never practiced can expect to find themselves good carpenters, golfers, bridge-players, or pianists.
Wilma MankillerSteve Martin
Friends describe me as someone who likes to sing and dance along the edge of the roof. I try to encourage young women to be willing to take risks, to stand up for the things they believe in, and to step up and accept the challenge of serving in leadership roles.
I hope many of you will be people that question why things are and why we have to do them the way we have always done them. I hope you will take some risks, exert some real leadership on issues, and if you will, dance along the edge of the roof as you continue for life.
Open your eyes, look within. Are you satisfied with the life you're living?
Being positive in a negative situation is not naοve. It's leadership.
Be so good they can't ignore you.
When the only tool you own is a hammer, every problem begins to resemble a nail.
If you deliberately plan to be less than you're capable of being, then I warn you that you'll be deeply unhappy for the rest of your life.
W. Somerset Maugham
A good style should show no sign of effort. What is written should seem a happy accident.
Creativity arises out of the tension between spontaneity and limitations, the latter (like the river banks) forcing the spontaneity into the various forms which are essential to the work of art or poem. ... The controlled and transcended tension present in the work of art is the result of the artists' successful struggle with and against limits.
Try not to make a straight line crooked.
M. H. McKee
Wisdom is knowing the right path to take. Integrity is taking it.
What can we gain by sailing to the moon if we are not able to cross the abyss that separates us from ourselves? This is the most important of all voyages of discovery, and without it, all the rest are not only useless, but disastrous.
The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short, but in setting our aim too low and achieving our mark.
I'm not a very good writer, but I'm an excellent rewriter.
A. A. Milne
Organizing is what you do before you do something, so that when you do it, it is not all mixed up.
The things that make me different are the things that make me.
Thomas S. Monson
Cooperativeness is not so much learning how to get along with others as taking the kinks out of ourselves, so that others can get along with us.
Dexter Morgan (character in the TV series Dexter)
My dad used to say, "Be careful what you think you know about someone; you're probably wrong."
It just doesn't matter! (as Tripper Harrison in the movie Meatballs)
You've gotta go out there and improvise and you've gotta be completely unafraid to die. You've got to be able to take a chance to die. And you have to die lots. You have to die all the time. You're going out there with just a whisper of an idea. The fear will make you clench up. That's the fear of dying. When you start and the first few lines don't grab and people are going like, "What's this? I'm not laughing and I'm not interested," then you just put your arms out like this and open way up and that allows your stuff to go out. Otherwise it's just stuck inside you.
W. H. Murray
Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative and creation, there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one's favor all manner of unforeseen incidents, meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way.
Leadership involves finding a parade and getting in front of it.
Of those who say nothing, few are silent.
Lady Dorothy Nevill
The real art of conversation is not only to say the right thing at the right place, but to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment.
Sir Isaac Newton
Truth is ever to be found in simplicity, and not in the multiplicity and confusion of things.
Leadership begins with listening to others with your full attention.
And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music.
We dont see things as they are, we see things as we are.
Life is a process of becoming, a combination of states we have to go through. Where people fail is that they wish to elect a state and remain in it. This is a kind of death.
And then the day came, when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.
Life shrinks or expands according to one's courage.
A speech is poetry: cadence, rhythm, imagery, sweep! A speech reminds us that words, like children, have the power to make dance the dullest beanbag of a heart.
Science isn't about truth and falsity, it's about reducing uncertainty.
Joyce Carol Oates
The first sentence can't be written until the final sentence is written.
Belief is the engine that makes perception operate.
You cannot bore someone into buying your product.
What are the most important qualities that make a successful entrepreneur? The ability to communicate. The ability to express your idea with certainty. That's how you become a leader--even if you are unsure, your ability to explain your vision and your direction is the attribute you need the most. ... Articulate your idea in 90 seconds or less....
Be careful how you speak to your children. One day it will become their inner voice.
There is only one basic human right, the right to do as you damn well please. And with it comes the only basic human duty, the duty to take the consequences.
To see what is in front of one's nose requires a constant struggle.
Mere words are cheap and plenty enough, but ideas that rouse and set multitudes thinking come as gold from the mines.
To argue with a person who has renounced the use of reason is like administering medicine to the dead.
People are generally better persuaded by the reasons which they have themselves discovered than by those which have come into the minds of others.
I would have written a shorter letter, but I did not have the time.
Chance favors the prepared mind.
Dr. Linus Pauling
The way to get good ideas is to get lots of ideas and throw the bad ones away.
John Allen Paulos
Uncertainty is the only certainty there is, and knowing how to live with insecurity is the only security.
Brick walls are there for you to show how badly you want it.
Joseph Chilton Pearce
To live a creative life we must lose our fear of being wrong.
Effective listening is a professional achievement--achieved only through hard work.
The difference between who you are and who you want to be is what you do.
The universe is full of magical things patiently waiting for our wits to grow sharper.
Companies often do debriefs when things go badly, but we found that folks let their guard down when they succeed. They drop out of learning mode.
Music gives soul to the universe, wings to the mind, flight to the imagination, and life to everything.
Creativity is the power to connect the seemingly unconnected.
If you are going to achieve excellence in big things, you develop the habit in little matters. Excellence is not an exception, it is a prevailing attitude.
Col. Sherman Potter (M*A*S*H, the TV series)
Just remember: There's a right way and a wrong way to do everything, and the wrong way is to keep trying to make everybody else do it the right way.
We don't receive wisdom; we must discover it for ourselves after a journey that no one can take for us or spare us.
It's not enough to create value, you have to interpret the value for your prospects and customers so that they can feel the value emotionally and empirically.
Every act of communication is an act of translation.
To achieve, you need thought. You have to know what you are doing and thats real power.
No matter how smart or well-educated you are, you can be deceived.
There is no expedient to which a man will not resort to avoid the real labor of thinking.
Wesley Branch Rickey
Things worthwhile generally don't just happen. Luck is a fact, but should not be a factor. Good luck is what is left over after intelligence and effort have combined at their best. Negligence or indifference is usually reviewed from an unlucky seat. The law of cause and effect and causality both work the same with inexorable exactitudes. Luck is the residue of design.
The will to win is important. The will to prepare is vital.
The most important thing to do is set goals. Training is a waste of time if you don't have goals.
The sheer rebelliousness in giving ourselves permission to fail frees a childlike awareness and clarity
When we give ourselves permission to fail, we at the same time give ourselves permission to excel.
The true aim of everyone who aspires to be a teacher should be not to impart his own opinions, but to kindle minds.
A real decision is measured by the fact that you've taken a new action. If there's no action, you haven't truly decided.
We all get what we tolerate.
If you're not prepared to be wrong, you'll never come up with anything original.
I learn by going where I have to go.
Mr. (Fred) Rogers
Play opens up a part of the mind that may have become closed. It's the things and people we play with who make a great difference in our life.
What makes the difference between wishing and realizing our wishes? Lots of things, and it may take months or years for your wish to come true, but it's far more likely to happen when you care so much about a wish that you'll do all you can to make it happen.
You rarely have time for everything you want in this life, so you need to make choices. And hopefully your choices can come from a deep sense of who you are.
I found that when you start thinking and saying what you really want, then your mind automatically shifts and pulls you in that direction. And sometimes it can be that simple, just a little twist in vocabulary that illustrates your attitude and philosophy.
Success is neither magical nor mysterious. Success is the natural consequence of consistently applying basic fundamentals.
You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing you think you cannot do.
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
Do one thing every day that scares you.
It takes as much energy to wish as it does to plan.
The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.
The road to hell is paved with works-in-progress.
It's like everyone tells a story about themselves inside their own head. Always. All the time. That story makes you what you are. We build ourselves out of that story.
J. K Rowling
No story lives unless someone wants to listen.
Theodore Isaac Rubin
The problem is not that there are problems. The problem is expecting otherwise and thinking that having problems is a problem.
What we think, or what we know, or what we believe is, in the end, of little consequence. The only consequence is what we do.
In all affairs it's a healthy thing now and then to hang a question mark on the things you have long taken for granted.
Somewhere, something incredible is waiting to be known.
What people think of as the moment of discovery is really the discovery of the question.
Make sure you have finished speaking before your audience has finished listening.
Adam Savage (co-star, Mythbusters)
Sometimes my brain writes a check that reality can't cash.
I think the one lesson I have learned is that there is no substitute for paying attention.
It's one thing to listen to sound advice and tactics during a lecture or workshop and another thing altogether to try to maintain clarity of thought sufficient to implement those tactics when your adrenalin is called up in fight or flight's grip. .... To overcome reflexive response, a good deal of training and practice is required. Logic alone will not do it.
Ideas are born from what is smelled, heard, seen, experienced, felt, emotionalized.
Fantasy is a necessary ingredient in living, it's a way of looking at life through the wrong end of a telescope.
Think left and think right and think low and think high. Oh, the thinks you can think up if only you try.
Why fit in when you were born to stand out?
So the writer who breeds more words than he needs, is making a chore for the reader who reads.
We are all a little weird and life's a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours -- we join up with them -- and fall in mutual weirdness -- and call it love.
The fool doth think he is wise, but the wise man knows himself to be a fool.
Roger C. Shank
Learning is about failure and recovery from failure.
George Bernard Shaw
The only man who behaves sensibly is my tailor; he takes my measurements anew every time he sees me, while all the rest go on with their old measurements and expect me to fit them.
The greatest problem with communication is the assumption that it has taken place.
People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don't believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can't find them, make them.
Growth demands a temporary surrender of security.
If we don't change, we don't grow. If we don't grow we are not really living.
Growth means change and change involves risk, stepping from the known to the unknown.
Listening is not merely hearing. Listening is reacting. Listening is being affected by what you hear. Listening is active.
Data-driven predictions can succeed--and they can fail. It is when we deny our role in the process that the odds of failure rise. Before we demand more of our data, we need to demand more of ourselves.
Improvisation is too good to leave to chance.
Isaac Bashevis Singer
We know what a person thinks not when he tells us what he thinks, but by his actions.
Dr. Devi Singh
Experimentation is the quest for how to improve things, the insatiable desire to pursue perfection and excellence. Experimentation and innovation is the bedrock of change, and remember, sometimes you have to create what you want to be a part of, for which you need the courage to change.
Experience is the best teacher. A compelling story is a close second.
A great deal of talent is lost to the world for want of a little courage.
If you're always ready, you don't have to get ready.
Socrates (character in Way of the Peaceful Warrior)
The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.
The techniques of the theater are the techniques of communicating.
The purpose of the games is to transcend the thinking process and knock on the door of the intuition.
Through spontaneity we are re-formed into ourselves.
We learn through experience and experiencing, and no one teaches anyone anything... If the environment permits it, anyone can learn whatever he chooses to learn; and if the individual permits it, the environment will teach him everything it has to teach.
Fear freezes you.
Play touches and stimulates vitality, awakening the whole person--mind, body, intelligence and creativity.
The unknown is where we go to find new things and intuition is how we find them.
Could Congress really do its work if it held its sessions by teleconferencing? Could the Supreme Court? Nothing can replace the spark of intelligence that travels from person to person at meetings.
It is easier to act your way into a new way of thinking than think your way into a new way of acting.
Control what you can, acknowledge what you cannot.
90% of everything is crap. (Sturgeon's Law)
The best collective decisions are the product of disagreement and contest, not consensus and compromise.
Lawrence E. Suskind
Sharing power is a critical part of getting people to take responsibility for their own futures.
I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it.
Who is wise? He who learns from everyone.
Hunter S. Thompson
Not a wasted word. This has been a main point to my literary thinking all my life.
Henry David Thoreau
Me thinks that the moment my legs begin to move, my thoughts begin to flow.
It's not what you look at that matters, it's what you see.
The greatest compliment that was ever paid me was when one asked me what I thought, and attended to my answer.
Don't ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive, and then go do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.
Change is not merely necessary to life--it IS life.
Whatever the present moment contains, accept it, as if you had chosen it. Always work with it--not against it.
Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.
Develop the winning edge; small differences in your performance can lead to large differences in your results.
The more clearly defined and keenly desired your goals, the more of your natural creativity will be released for goal attainment.
Ideas are a dime a dozen, but people who put them into effect are extremely rare. Be the minority and make it happen.
Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.
The key to success is to focus our conscious mind on things we desire not things we fear.
It is only when we are no longer fearful that we begin to create.
Ive suffered a great many catastrophes in my life. Most of them never happened.
It usually takes more than three weeks to prepare a good impromptu speech.
The difference between the right word and almost right word is the difference between lightning and a lightning bug.
Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.
Habit is habit, and not to be flung out of the window by any man, but coaxed downstairs a step at a time.
The right word may be effective, but no word was ever as effective as a rightly timed pause.
Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear - not absence of fear.
Censorship is telling a man he can't have a steak just because a baby can't chew it.
Vincent Van Gogh
I am always doing what I can't do yet in order to learn how to do it.
Storytelling is by far the most underrated skill in business.
To learn who rules over you, simply find out who you are not allowed to criticize.
Wernher von Braun
I have learned to use the word "impossible" with the greatest caution.
We have to continually be jumping off cliffs and developing our wings on the way down.
Practice any art...no matter how well or badly, not to get money and fame, but to experience becoming, to find out what's inside you, to make your soul grow."
The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any.
The success of your presentation will be judged not by the knowledge you send but by what the listener receives.
Communication is defined not by what is being said but by what is being heard. For this reason, it is vital that you gain a good appreciation of how other people will listen -- interpret, process, and assign meaning -- to what you have to say before you can influence them effectively.
Booker T. Washington
Few things help an individual more than to place responsibility upon him and to let him know that you trust him.
Thomas J. Watson, Sr.
It is a common mistake to think failure is the enemy of success. Failure is a teacher-a harsh one, but the best. Put failure to work for you.
So go ahead and make mistakes. Make all you can, because that's where you will find success: on the far side of failure.
Problems that remain persistently insoluble should always be suspected as questions asked in the wrong way.
To get what you want, stop doing what isnt working.
Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else's opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation.
Bite off more than you can chew, then chew it.
Being in the same room with people and creating something together is a good thing.
I was once afraid of people saying, "Who does she think she is?" Now I have the courage to stand and say, "This is who I am."
Everything in your life gets better when you get better, and nothing is ever going to get better until you get better.
It is in playing, and only in playing, that the individual child or adult is able to be creative and to use the whole personality, and it is only in being creative that the individual discovers the self.
You can't get to wonderful without passing through alright.
Lee Ann Womack
I think you can have moderate success by copying something else, but if you really want to knock it out of the park, you have to do something different and take chances.
William Paul Young
You have to take the time to prepare the soil if you want to embrace the seed.
It's not what you've got, it's what you use that makes a difference.
If it doesn't challenge you it won't change you. We only expand by demand. Use every challenge as an opportunity to stretch yourself and become better. It's the only way to ultimately win.
Look closely at the present you are constructing: it should look like the future you are dreaming.
The game is won or lost on hundreds of small details.
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